No one gets married with the idea that they’ll get divorced. Every marriage has tough spots. Some of them are worth working through while others may be a sign that it’s time to call it quits. If you feel as though your marriage has been going through a “down” period for a long time and there’s no sign of light, then you may be considering contacting a divorce attorney.
At Law Offices of Torrence L. Howell, we can’t tell you if now is the time for you to get divorced. What we can do is offer support once you’ve made the decision. Read on to learn four signs that can often indicate that the end is near. If you see your relationship reflected here, or if you simply want to know more about what your options would look like, reach out to us at (909) 920-0908.
- You no longer have anything in common
- There are money secrets
- You’re no longer intimate with each other
- You either fight all the time or never at all
Did you and your spouse used to have a lot in common? Did you used to enjoy common activities but now you don’t seem to spend any time together? That can be a bad sign. In fact, this is one of the most common reasons for older people to get divorced. They may have gone through the process of raising their kids, but once they’re on their own they realize that they no longer have anything in common – or anything to keep them together.
It doesn’t matter how your finances are managed – if either one (or both) of you are lying about money or spending, then that can be a very bad sign. In most cases, it means two things. First, it means that there’s a lack of truck between the two of you. Second, it means that you likely have trouble working together on financial goals.
If you and your spouse are no longer sexually active, or if one of you simply participates because they feel that it’s their job, then you could be facing a serious problem. More than just an issue of physically intimacy, this can be a sign that you no longer share emotional intimacy.
As far as disagreements go, marriages on their way out often go one of two ways. One option is that the couple fights all the time. They argue about money, they argue about who’s taking the kids to soccer practice, they argue about who started the argument – it may seem as though it’s never ending. The other, opposite option is that the couple can avoid fights at all costs. This may mean that they simply don’t care enough to take a stand.
Even if you see yourself reflected in every one of the above points, that may not necessarily mean that you’re bound for divorce. However, if you feel that you might be then it’s a good idea to get sound legal advice. You can reach out to Law Offices of Torrence L. Howell at (909) 920-0908 to get started with a free legal consultation.